Help for Anxiety, Depression, and Suicidal Thoughts (repost)
To anyone who is hurting really badly, who is struggling with overwhelming anxiety or depression, who is considering taking their own lives ... I dedicate this post. Please, take some time to look through some of the links here. This is a round-up of some on-line resources or posts about dealing with anxiety or depression, particularly as a Christian.
But first:
1. Put on a worship song right now. Or sing a worship song out loud. (Or watch some Tony Evans sermons for encouragement, click here for a list of them.) If demons know we are discouraged and vulnerable, they will attack harder. But worshipping God is repulsive to demons. So start singing or put on some Christian music. (Such as Oh, What Love or Love, Heal Me or Healing Begins. There's more in the list below.)
2. If you are a believer in Jesus Christ, say this out loud if you think you are under spiritual attack: In the name of Jesus Christ, I command any demons to leave me and my family right now! As a believer, you have the right to use Jesus's name against evil. Not in any crazy way, but you can command demons to leave in Jesus's name. (For links to posts on spiritual warfare, see War Rooms, Praying Scripture, and Spiritual Warfare.)
3. Ask God to send His heavenly angels to surround and protect you from evil.
4. Start thanking God for anything and everything you can think of. Out loud. And write it down if you want.
5. Repeat a verse out loud, such as "For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power, and of love, and of sound mind" (2 Tim 1:7) or "The Lord himself goes before me and will be with me; he will never leave me nor forsake me. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged" (Deut. 31:8, paraphrased). There's more in the list below. Scripture is the sword of the Spirit, a weapon against evil. Use it like it is!
6. Talk to someone right now - your friend, spouse, pastor, even just out loud to God. Holding it in can be crushing. Just start saying everything and anything you need to say. Or look up the Suicide Prevention Hotline to talk to someone. (And say this out loud, "Suicide is not an option. It's not the answer. God, help me find another way. Help me get through this." As often as you need to.)
7. Cry if you need to. I realized one day that sometimes my panicked feelings were just tears trying to come out. And after I let myself cry, I felt better, not as panicked. In fact, I made a CD with Christian songs that touched my heart and made me cry so that I could put it on when I felt anxious, see "My 'When Anxiety Strikes' Playlist".
8. Decide that you are too tired or busy to be anxious right now. I kid you not, one day when I felt anxiety rising up, I found myself thinking, "You know what? I'm just too exhausted to be anxious right now." And immediately the panic stopped escalating. (One tip a counselor might give you: Schedule your anxiety or discouragement. Decide that you will allow yourself to feel those feelings at such-and-such a day and time, but not until then. Take control of your feelings instead of letting them control you.)
9. Get outside. Take a walk. Sit on your back porch. Just get out of your house and out of your head. Maybe watch a light-hearted TV show or paint something or pick weeds or read the Bible. Watch a video of Bob Ross painting (so relaxing!). Do something to interrupt your mind.
10. Pray. Here are some possible prayers:
"Lord, I need You right now. Please take my fear and panic and discouragement right now, and replace it with Your peace, wisdom, and comfort."
"Lord, help me feel Your love fully right now. I need to sense Your healing, comforting love."
"Help me see things the way You do. Help me to see the lies I have been believing and living, and to see Your Truth about myself and my life."
"Forgive me for ..." (When we sin, we remove ourselves from God's protective hand. And sometimes, as discipline, He hands us over to our bad choices. In order to get right with Him again, admit any sins to Him in prayer and ask for forgiveness.)
"Help me forgive so-and-so for ..." (Bitterness and unforgiveness interferes with our relationship with God.)
"Lord, I don't know what to do. Please, just hold me right now. Thank You that You are big enough and strong enough when I am not!"
"Show me what You want me to do. Tell me what You want me to know. And is there anything You want me to pray?"
"Show me if I have closed off any part of my heart, life, or past to You. I am opening it all up to You right now. And I ask You to come in fully, to heal the broken parts of my heart and mind and life, with Your love and truth and wisdom."
If you don't know what else to pray, pray the Lord's prayer out loud:
11. If you are distressed right now and don't know Jesus as Lord and Savior, what are you waiting for? How much worse do things have to get before you will reach out for His helping, healing hand? If you want to turn to Him, simply pray to Him, asking Him to save you, telling Him you believe in Him and want Him in your life. It can be something as simple as this: "Jesus, save me. I admit that I am a sinner, that I can't save myself, and that I need You. And I choose to believe in You right now and to accept You as my Lord and Savior. Help me. Heal me. And help me to grow in faith and in my belief in You. Amen"
(Also see "Starting Your Own Relationship With Jesus Christ (And Why We Need Him!)")
[And if you've never read the Bible, pick one up and start reading, maybe starting with the New Testament. With Jesus and the hope and healing He offers. Or maybe starting with the Psalms, reading about others crying out to the Lord and finding hope in Him. I truly believe that you will find no hope as genuine and healing as the hope that's found in the Lord. If you've tried and tried to do life on your own but have found it exhausting and overwhelming, then it's time to reach out to the Lord and let Him help you. Like I said, it can be a simple prayer, even just "Jesus, help me. I need You." Let that be your first step to true healing.
{And it was really strange, too. As I was laying in bed recuperating (with my husband checking my pulse and feeding me ice chips to rehydrate me), my brain was on such "high activity/stress" that I could actually hear at least four different trains of thought going on in my mind at one time, four different active areas of my brain. One part was replaying passing out into my husband's arms. One part was rehashing my anxieties. One part was singing a line from a song over and over again. And another part was going, "Oh my goodness, I can hear several different trains of thought going on at one time. I can hear this thing over here and that thing over there at the same time. How strange!" I never noticed that happening before, but now when I get really stressed, I realize that it's usually because I've got several unresolved thoughts flying fast around my head at one time, and that I need to focus on one thing only to stop it, to slow it all down. And so I start repeating a couple Psalms I memorized, and everything gets more quiet in my head, and I relax and rest my mind.}
Anyway, research everything for yourself, but I like herbal teas for stress or sleep (particularly with chamomile or passionflower or ashwaganda) ... and chamomile or lavender pills ... and Herb Pharm's "Relaxing Sleep" herbal supplement (it's disgusting but it helps, so put a dropperful in a tiny bit of orange juice before bed and take it like a shot) ... and Herb Pharm's "Passionflower" and "Good Mood" herbal supplements ... and Genexa Stress Relief tablets, and Bach's "Rescue Pastilles" (little homeopathic "candies" you suck on when you feel anxiety coming) ... and Bach's "Rescue Sleep Liquid Melts" ... and those little homeopathic "pearls" that you put under your tongue, particularly chamomilla, coffea cruda (my husband takes this when he starts buzzing after too much coffee, which can feel like anxiety coming on) and, my preferred one to take at the first tickle of anxiety, ignatia amara. (I actually prefer Ollois brand of organic homeopathic pearls when I can get them. FYI, I am linking to these sites just to show you the product, not because I order from them. I get mine from our local Fresh Thyme store.)
Okay now, back to the links:
I haven't read everything in these or fully evaluated the websites, but I have tried to find biblically-sound ones. And I am passing them onto you, for you to check out yourself. Maybe there will be some hope or help in there somewhere. Because let's face it, when we are struggling with real anxiety or depression, we can use all the help we can get. (And I will try to add any more that I find as I find them.)
And no matter which one you click on, take comfort in knowing that you are not alone! We all struggle at some point, in some way. We all need help sometimes. We are all human. And that's okay! Let's help each other on our journeys. Let's offer compassion and understanding and encouragement!
You are not alone! And with God's help, you will make it through!
Jeremiah 29:11: "'For I know the plans I have for you,' declares the Lord, 'plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.'"
Isaiah 41:10: "So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand."
Psalm 34:17-18: "The righteous cry out, and the Lord hears them; he delivers them from all their troubles. The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit."
Deuteronomy 31:8: "The Lord himself goes before you and will be with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged."
Psalm 40:1-2: "I waited patiently for the Lord; he turned to me and heard my cry. He lifted me out of the slimy pit, out of the mud and mire; he set my feet on a rock and gave me a firm place to stand."
Romans 8:38-39: "For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord."
Psalm 145:18: "The Lord is near to all who call on him, to all who call on him in truth."
Psalm 55:16-17: "But I call to God, and the Lord saves me. Evening, morning and noon I cry out in distress, and he hears my voice."
John 10:10: "The thief [Satan] comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I [Jesus] have come that they may have life, and have it to the full."
2 Timothy 1:7: "For God has not given us a spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind." (KJV)
For some links to encouraging songs, click on "My 'When Anxiety Strikes' Playlist", which has songs such as:
Sweetly Broken by Jeremy Riddle - absolutely amazing! It touched my heart so deeply that it became a theme song for my life and the inspiration for my other blog, The 'Sweetly Broken' Journey.
I AM by Crowder - God's always there holding onto us, calling us to hold onto Him. I love the scene when the disciple is on the ground, crying and reaching out to Jesus. That's SO how I feel in life. Battered, lying helpless on the ground, desperately reaching out for the Lord, stretching as far as I can, hoping to be able to touch Him with the tip of my finger.
Links to websites and posts:
If you don't know Jesus, let me introduce you to Him!
https://heathersgardenandhome.blogspot.com/2017/11/starting-your-own-relationship-with.html
And for posts on spiritual warfare ...
https://mycrazyfaith.blogspot.com/2018/09/war-rooms-praying-scripture-and.html
Susan also has a series on dealing with anxiety and depression. This is the first post in her series. She starts with hope.
This is a blog from a cancer-survivor with a lot of heart and a lot of encouragement to share.
http://nikihardy.com/blog/
Ashley shares her story of contemplating suicide and what stopped her:
https://hissparrowblog.com/2018/09/20/suicide-my-story/
I also just found this one, and it look like there is a lot of hope and truth here to help those who are struggling through life.
https://couragehopelove.com
These are posts I wrote to share some spiritual and practical tips for dealing with depression and anxiety, from my own struggles. (Some of these tips I've covered in other posts on this blog.) FYI, I do not write short posts. I write long, wordy posts ... for two reasons. One is that I like to write things out, deeply and fully. And I do this for me, to clear my mind, to process things where I can see them. And two is because when I was struggling really badly emotionally and dealing with incredible loneliness, I found great comfort in reading other people's stories. And when I found a good writer, I never wanted the book to end. It would've been fine with me if they had written in detail about what they ate for breakfast - how it tasted, how it smelled, the way it felt in their mouth, where the crumbs fell, etc. I needed their "companionship." And while I know most people like quick, easy-to-read, get-to-the-point posts, I write mine for those who like to read deeply, who want to linger over what they read and who find companionship in words. That's why my posts are so much longer than everyone else's. (If you want quicker, easy-to-read, inspirational posts, check out many of the blogs I have links to in the right side-bar at Love, Heal Me.) But for these posts, I did write a shorter one for those who don't have enough energy for lots of words. Sometimes when we are struggling the worst, we just want things to be simpler.
The really long version:
https://lovehealme.blogspot.com/2017/08/26-tips-for-dealing-with-depression-and.html
The shorter version:
https://lovehealme.blogspot.com/2017/08/26-tips-for-dealing-with-depression-and_28.html
This is a simple, encouraging daily devotional. I've only checked a couple of these posts out, but I did read the "Streams in the Desert" book, and I loved it (at least, I think that was the title).
https://www.crosswalk.com/devotionals/desert/
I just found this one and only read a few posts, but I like it so far. The blog itself is a satirical Christian look at lots of various issues. (I personally love satire and sarcasm. I'm really good at it, too. I just don't get much chance to use it.) But this post is about things he found helpful when dealing with anxiety.
http://adam4d.com/things-helped-anxiety/
Search "anxiety" or "depression" on this site:
https://www.ibelieve.com
Some good posts from Sheila Walsh (http://www.sheilawalsh.com/category/blog/), who struggled with emotional issues and wrote books about it. I really appreciated her flat-out honesty in the book I read (can't remember the title).
http://www.sheilawalsh.com/miracles-in-the-middle-of-the-mess/
http://www.sheilawalsh.com/the-hope-of-a-beautiful-broken-new-year/
http://www.sheilawalsh.com/free-gift-from-sheila-first-chapter-from-in-the-middle-of-the-mess/
http://www.sheilawalsh.com/free-chapter-one-from-sheila-in-the-middle-of-the-mess/ (This link says it's chapter one, but it's actually chapter two. The first chapter is in the link above.)
For a satirical look at how we grow in bitterness, check this one out. (But do not take it too seriously. I wrote it to show the ridiculousness of some of the things we do that bring us down and hurt us, about how it's Satan's plan to make us bitter and how we consciously or unconsciously follow him in his plan. You never know, you might recognize something of yourself in it and realize that it's something you don't want to keep doing. But don't read it if you are really depressed and can't handle the satire. Read one of the other links instead.)
https://myimpressionisticlife.blogspot.com/2016/02/satans-foolproof-plan-for-bitterness.html
I wrote this one out of frustration after our pastor included depression in a list of sins, without any further help or advice or compassion. It really upset a woman at church who struggles with it. And it upset me to think about how heartless and irresponsible it was for the pastor to do that. So I wrote my "response" in this post. For those of us who know what it's like to struggle with depression.
Honestly, sometimes I think that the only people who should be allowed to help those who have emotional struggles are those who have had emotional struggles themselves. They are the ones who can truly understand what it's like. And so they know that Christian platitudes and simplistic "pat answers" are not going to fix it, that shaming people for struggling emotionally won't help (but will hurt). They are the ones who are willing to come alongside another person and help lift them up, instead of simply throwing around uncompassionate condemnations and simple "I'll fix it" ideas.
Broken people are the best ones to help broken people. That's why I write what I do. I'm broken, too. (But I'm being rebuilt in the Lord!)
https://lovehealme.blogspot.com/2017/08/is-depression-sin-repost.html
And here are some Christian blogs that have link-ups to connect you with an abundance of great writing from other Christian bloggers. You are bound to find encouragement in there somewhere. (The link-ups are found weekly on most of these blogs, not on every post. You might have to look around a little for them.)
https://holleygerth.com/blog/
https://www.godsizeddreams.com/ (They are currently not adding more posts, but there are many archived ones)
anitaojeda.com/category/inspire-me-monday/ (Inspire Me Monday Link-up)
https://www.dawnklinge.com/abovethewaves/ (Grace & Truth Link-up)
https://countingmyblessings.com/ (Faith 'n Friends Link-up)
https://lylidunbar.com/blog/ (Faith on Fire Link-up)
https://www.betheeinspired.com/blog/ (Destination Inspiration Link-up)
www.journeysingrace.com/ (Grace Moments Link-up)
Suicide is not an option!