Review of "Once an Insider, Now Without A Church Home" - A Look At How Churches Go Wrong
I was recently
asked to review this book – Once an
Insider, Now Without A Church Home: One Couple’s Faith Crisis Due to the
Infiltration and Spread of Authoritarianism, Calvinism, Complementarianism, and
Covenants in the Am Evangelical Church, written by Amanda Farmer. (Click here to go to the author’s website or click here to order her book on Amazon.)
I am not
getting paid or reimbursed in any way for this review. But after reading it, I am happy to do it
because I think it’s a message that needs to get out there as much as possible.
For me, I will focus particularly on the “Calvinism” part of it, seeing as how
it’s also recently taking over the church my family has attended for almost 20
years.
I found this review
of the book online by another blog-owner.
And since that blog owner did a great job of giving a thorough synopsis
of the book, I will focus more on giving my impressions of it, how it affected
me, and what it made me think.
For starters,
Amanda shares her story in a very clear, thorough way, taking us from her search
for a home church … to her early pleasant experiences with the Evangelical Free
church she ended up in (where she held certain positions) … to her concerns
about some questionable changes going on in the leadership, behind the scenes …
to the disturbing theological changes that came in with a new Calvinist
pastor. Changes which eventually made it
unbearable to stay at the church she had dedicated decades of her life to.
Overview:
As the title
says, she addresses the spread of authoritarianism, Calvinism,
complementarianism, and (extra-biblical) covenants. Click on the above review link for a deeper
look at this.
But in a
nutshell, she shares the story of her church’s slide into becoming more pastor/elder-controlled
(less “leading” and more “controlling,” fewer elders to oversee the pastor and
keep things in check), more male-dominated (restricting the role of women more,
being less welcoming to women’s input in church decisions), a solidly
Calvinistic church that doesn’t tolerate other views (because of the influence
of a new, dogmatic, domineering Calvinist pastor), and a church that now
requires members to sign a covenant with the church, committing to live the way
a Christian should live and the way the leaders want them to live, not only
while they are at the church but even if they should leave that church.
(Requiring
people in the congregation to sign covenants with the church regarding their spiritual
lives and how they live out their faith - above and beyond agreeing with the
basic core beliefs of that church - is dangerous territory. Especially if membership in that church
hinges on it. I completely agree with
Amanda that it sets up the likely possibility for spiritual abuse! Any leadership that seeks to do this is
straying beyond their rightful boundaries, usurping God’s role in people’s
lives and adding burdens and requirements that even God doesn’t put on us!)
When I got
to the end of the book, I felt a little sad about how things turned out for her. For the loss of her home church, the damage
done to relationships, the way it caused her and her husband to struggle with
their faith, and for how resistant the church was to even consider the wise
cautions and insights she gave.
And I was
sad because it is very similar to the changes that are going on at our church,
as least regarding Calvinism. I do not
have the “inner circle” experience she does, so I do not have first-hand
knowledge of some of the other things she warns about, such as business and
financial decisions and to what degree they include women in church matters. But I can totally relate to her frustration
of trying to confront the leadership, to “sound the alarm” about dangerous
theological changes, and to the feeling of being ultimately alone in your
position, almost ashamed that you disagree, as though there is something wrong
with you and your faith.
This is why
I totally appreciate her willingness to speak out about her experience and her
boldness in confronting the leaders at her church. The more we quietly sit back and let these
kinds of changes happen and yet say nothing, the more complicit we are in the
slide into heresy and spiritual abuse and all that.
The Gospel Message:
In
particular, I was struck by how well Amanda – who has no formal theological
training – is able to understand and share the Gospel, in contrast to the
highly educated pastors. Even her
husband’s simple sermon about the freight cars is profound, simply for the fact
that it’s so relatable and easy-to-understand.
It’s a sermon for the Everyday Person.
And that’s what the Gospel was meant to be. Truth and hope for all people. And I was touched by it, especially after
having had my fill lately of too many lofty, academic, theological, Calvinistic
beatings from my pastor.
The theological
experts are supposed to be the ones who get it right. Yet as I read Amanda’s views on the foundational
truths of the Gospel (even in her letters to the leaders at her church), I can
see that it’s not always true. She has a
better grasp on the Gospel than the leaders in her church because she is
reading it as it was meant to be read and keeping it in line with God’s
revealed character (whereas Calvinism completely alters and destroys God’s
love, grace, justice, sovereignty, forgiveness, goodness, etc., and turns Him into a liar).
As I said, the
Gospel message was meant to be read by all, to be understood by all. It’s simple enough that even a child or a
biblically-illiterate seeker can understand it:
Because
of the Fall of mankind, we are all separated from God. And because of our sin, we can’t get into
heaven, nor can we save ourselves. But
even though we are separated from God by sin, God loves us and wants us with
Him in heaven. So He made a way for us
to get into heaven. Since we can’t pay
the penalty for sin ourselves, He paid it for us by sending Jesus to die in our
place. And anyone who accepts His
sacrifice, His payment, on their behalf will find eternal life. Salvation is available to all people because
Jesus paid for all people’s sins on the cross.
And it’s up to us to accept or reject His sacrifice for us.
See! It’s that
simple. And that simple beautiful Gospel
message has touched the hearts and changed the lives and destinies of millions
of people.
But now …
now we have multitudes of brainy, lofty theological students who have been trained
in Calvinism being unleashed into the world, into our churches. They have twisted the Gospel’s Truth, and turned
it into something only the Theological Elite can understand, into something
only the “super humble” people (like them!) can accept (i.e. people who won’t
question a theology that’s confusing, irrational, illogical,
biblically-off-track, and that turns God into a monster, but who will just
“humbly” accept it without qualms).
Essentially,
I think too many pastors and theologians have made a religion out of their own
assumptions (which is what I think Calvinism is), and they are actually
worshipping their own intellect, brilliance, and (false) humility, instead of
worshipping God as He is in His Word.
And,
unfortunately, to the detriment of the Church and the Gospel, they are experts
at slowly introducing their heresies so that we don’t realize anything is wrong
until it’s too late.
Calvinism:
For those
who don’t know, Calvinism includes (among other things) the ideas that God has
prechosen who will go to heaven and who will go to hell and there’s nothing we
can do about it … that Jesus only died for the “elect” (those predestined to
heaven) … that we have no choice about anything because God causes everything
we do, even our sins and unbelief, yet we are still somehow responsible for it
and can be punished for those things God causes us to do … that we are unable
to think about or want or seek God unless God causes us to do it (only the
“elect” people, that is) … and that God is glorified by predestining people to
hell.
Calvinism
completely turns the Gospel on its head.
Yet they teach it as truth, as the only way to view the Bible!
I don’t
doubt that they truly think they are teaching truth. But honestly, they are not teaching the Gospel. They are teaching a completely altered version of the Gospel that comes from men’s own
philosophies and assumptions about what God is like and how He has to act in
order to be God. But since they use the
same words and phrases and Bible verses (yet they alter the meanings of those
words and phrases, and they take the Bible verses out of context), it all
sounds biblical to us. And we don’t
realize there’s anything wrong … until it’s too late.
I appreciate
that Amanda takes the time to alert us to the damaging theological views that
are seeping into the Church - not just her church, but many others out there as
well (such as mine). This is why this
book is so important. If you haven’t
experienced the things Amanda warns about, it’s very likely that you will
sometime in the future. And the things
she details in her book give you an idea of what to watch out for, red flags to
notice, things to be discerning about.
If you do
not know about Calvinism, it would be easy to miss it if it comes into your
church. You would just end up thinking,
“Oh, I don’t think that sounds right, but who am I to question it? I don’t really know enough about it, I guess. But these theologians and pastors are the
experts, and they told me that I can’t really understand it anyway and that I
shouldn’t try, so I will just have to trust what they say. Besides, no one else seems to have a problem
with it.”
(Calvinists
are very good at making you feel ashamed and unhumble and divisive if you
question them or try to contradict them.
I believe they are master manipulators, intentionally or unintentionally,
shaming and strong-arming people into agreeing with them. Or at least into not speaking out against
them. For more on their manipulative
tactics, see “Predestination Manipulation.”)
And as these
pastors slowly, subtly introduce their Calvinist theology from the pulpit, they
will also be working behind the scenes to spread their views person-to-person, such
as by having the elders and various small groups study books like Wayne
Grudem’s Systematic Theology. And slowly but surely, Calvinism will take
over your church, until all dissenters are unwelcome or seen as “less than”
Christians. Just like Amanda’s church
made her feel. And just like the
direction my church is headed in.
Amanda has
documented the administrative, attitudinal, and theological changes her church
went through in their drift away from the church they are supposed to be, a Bible-centered
church for the Everyday Person. And we
would be wise to take her observations and warnings to heart. Because someday it could be your church! (It’s already mine, which is why this book
resonated with me so much.)
A few of the things I like about
Amanda and her book, in general:
1. I like and respect her
boldness in confronting or questioning the elders/leaders as soon as she
notices something that’s concerning to her.
How many of us just sit by and quietly accept what’s happening, thinking
that it’s not our place to say anything, afraid of looking like the only ones
who have a problem with what’s going on?
At least, that’s how it was for my
husband and me as our Calvinist pastor became more and more dogmatic. We didn’t like what we were hearing, but we didn’t
feel like it was our place to speak up, especially because no one else was
speaking up. No one else seemed to be
bothered by it or to disagree with it.
So we sat there quietly, not wanting to cause disruptions or divisions
or displeasure with the new pastor.
It wasn’t until years later that we decided
we could no longer sit there quietly and say nothing, that it was finally time
to send a letter to the elders
detailing our concerns. And for us, the
final straw was after I left a very biblically-based comment on the church’s
blog where I disagreed with the pastor’s view that “predestination is
absolutely what the Bible says, and so you just have to accept it.” The comment showed up for a couple hours, but
then it was deleted. So not only did we
have a pastor who pushed his Calvinist views as “the only right way to read
Scripture” and who shamed and manipulated people into not disagreeing with him,
but now we had a leadership that was deleting other biblically-based views on
highly debatable topics. Disagreement is
not being tolerated or allowed. In fact,
our pastor never even points out that there were other views out there. That is much too cult-like for me! And it was time to speak up.
But … I don’t know … maybe if we,
like Amanda, had spoken up right away more boldly (other than the few other
comments I made on his blog posts), maybe things would have turned out
differently. Maybe we wouldn’t be at the
cusp of withdrawing our membership from our church right now. Maybe we would’ve been able to alert other
people to what was going on earlier. And
then maybe more people would have joined us in questioning the Calvinist
theology being pushed on us. But we
remained silent for the most part, afraid to make waves or cause division. And now, although we are standing against
what we believe is heresy, we are basically standing alone (except for one
other couple who is as alarmed as we are).
I know how Amanda feels!
2. Amanda is very perceptive,
sensitive to the changes that are going on in her church, and wise about where
they will lead. She seems to have the
gift of discernment when it comes to when things are going off-the-rails in the
church in various areas and how it could hurt the church. And she was bold enough to bring it to the
attention of others. If only they had
listened to her! I agree with most all
of her insights into potential problems in her church. As I said, you might not be facing these
problems in your church, but you would be wise to learn from her experience, so
that you can be discerning if ever you start to notice similar subtle changes
in yours. If you can see what’s
happening before it gets too far along, you might be able to keep it all from
going off-track.
3. She is rather careful in
what she says, even when confronting the leaders of her church - except for the
few times when she admits that she let her emotions get the better of her. (Although I don’t blame her, and I think it
was justifiable to a degree.) You can
tell she is not just carrying out some vendetta or acting out irrationally or
defensively. She really wants to make
sure the church is being true to the Gospel.
And for the most part, she is careful and thoughtful in expressing her
views and her reasons for her views, even when emotions are running high. I can respect that! And it makes me trust her perspective even
more.
But while she balances boldness
with respectfulness throughout her interactions with the church leaders, I
would have liked to see her take an even bolder stand in her final letter to
the church, when she withdrew her membership.
She was clearly heartbroken at how things turned out and was trying to
be very polite and apologetic, almost as if taking full responsibility for what
went wrong. And I can understand that,
wanting to take the blame all on yourself so that you don’t cause trouble or
hurt anyone else. Wanting to end it all
on a polite note. Maybe even simply
being at a point of giving up, of not really caring or trying anymore because
it isn’t doing any good anyway, knowing that it’s over and there’s nothing
more you can do about it.
But I would have loved to see her
write a letter more like this (at least concerning the Calvinism issue):
“Dear Church Elders/Pastors, It is
with heavy hearts that we are withdrawing our church membership. We can no longer tolerate the Calvinist
theology that the pastor has been dogmatically pushing on the church. We do not think it’s biblical. In fact, we think it basically contradicts
what the Bible says.
We have tried to point out to you that
there is more than enough in the Bible that contradicts Calvinism. And while we don’t expect to change anyone’s
mind on it, we hoped you would see enough against it to make you more cautious
about it, to make you realize that it’s unwise and irresponsible for the pastor
to be so dogmatic about it. We had hoped
that the church would adopt a more “middle of the road” approach to this issue,
especially since it is not clear in the Bible and since not everyone agrees
with the pastor’s view (nor should we be expected to). But the pastor has only become more forceful
about it. And it is becoming clear that
other views on this issue will not be allowed or tolerated. This is divisive. And it’s unacceptable!
Therefore, we feel we have no other
option than to withdraw our membership at this time. We wish it didn’t have to end this way
because we have been here for many years, but we cannot be part of the
direction this church is going. We tried
to help you see the dangerous direction you are headed in, but you would not
listen and have not taken us seriously.
And so now we have no choice but to shake the dust off our feet as we
leave. If someday you realize that this
church has drifted further into false teaching and bad practices, remember that
you were warned. Of course, we hope it
doesn’t get to that point. We hope and
pray that even after we leave, you might begin to take to heart the concerns we
brought up. So that you can correct the
church’s direction before it’s too late.
We wish things didn’t have to turn
out this way, but sometimes this is what has to happen in the battle for truth. When heresy is being introduced and tolerated
in a church, it becomes necessary to make waves. And in some ways, we consider it a privilege
to have been the ones to sound the alarm.
May God open your eyes to truth before it’s too late.”
I think there are some times – some
issues – when it’s more than okay to be righteously angry, to boldly call it
like it is, to be unapologetic about having a problem with something, to put
the blame squarely where it belongs, to take a firm stand and not back down.
And one of those times is when a Calvinist
pastor begins telling you that Jesus only died for a few people, that God only
really loves a few people, that most people are predestined to hell and can do
nothing about it, and that God’s grace only extends to the “elect.” (This isn’t exactly what her pastor said, but
it’s what Calvinism is.) I don’t care
what else the pastor gets right; if he gets this wrong, then it’s all
wrong. Altering and denying what the
Bible says about Jesus’s sacrifice, God’s love, God’s grace, forgiveness,
salvation, etc. is about as bad as it gets.
But unfortunately, Calvinism is so subtle, so insidious, that we don’t
recognize the lies until it’s too late.
It’s a wolf in sheep’s clothing.
And that can do far more damage than a wolf that looks and acts like a
wolf.
And, yes, I admit it … the “membership
withdrawal letter” that I suggested is my daydream letter. It’s what I would love to write to my church,
if and when we have to withdraw our membership.
(That is, if I have the guts to send something so forthright.) I’ve been thinking about it a lot lately
because it’s fast heading in that direction for us. All we are waiting on is the official word from
the head elder about how the meeting went where they discussed the letter we sent
detailing our concerns about our pastor’s dogmatic Calvinist preaching. But seeing as how the pastor has only gotten
more vocal about it since we wrote the letter, we know it will not be in our
favor. It will probably be the nail in
the coffin for us and that church. (And of course, I would never really send a letter like this. The last thing I would want to do is tear them down or to enrage them and get myself into some sort of "church discipline" scenario. So in that way, I agree with Amanda that less in more, and quietly is better than loudly.)
4. She has great rebuttals
to the leaders, especially in Chapter 18.
In this chapter, she shares the interactions between her and the leaders
regarding Calvinism. If you want to get
a good idea of what Calvinists believe and how nonsensical it is, read this
chapter. The more I learn about
Calvinism and the more I read Calvinist responses and explanations for things,
the more shocked I am that anyone would believe what they do. It’s insane!
On page 139, Amanda gets to the
heart of the issue, where Calvinism goes all wrong right from the beginning:
“The most often voiced
justifications for Calvinism that I hear is that “God is God,” “God can do
whatever he wants,” and “we all deserve hell so any one God choses to save is
receiving his grace and mercy.” First, the overall problem with the Calvinistic
viewpoint, as I see it, is that the premise from which the whole doctrine is
built on is faulty. I do agree that “God is God” and “God can do whatever he
wants.” I also agree that if God decides to save some and send others to hell
that is his prerogative. The problem
with all of this is that it is not the God that He reveals himself to be in the
Bible or in His creation.” (emphasis
added)
Calvinists have a faulty view of
God’s sovereignty and how He acts. They
assume that since He is all-powerful and “in-control,” then He always has to be
using His power to control everything.
Or else He wouldn’t be God. But
the simple truth is … while God is all-powerful and can control everything, He has chosen not to.
Amanda has it right when she says, “I, based on the scriptures, believe God made man to have
a relationship with Him and he wants his creatures to willingly serve
and worship Him.” (page 140)
He could totally control us, but He
has chosen not to because He is a relational being who wants a relationship
with us. He wants to be with people who
want to be with Him. He wants people to
willingly choose to worship Him and love Him.
And the only way this can happen is if He gives people the right to make
decisions. This is why we have
free-will, because God granted it to us so that we can choose Him and so that
He could spend eternity with those who want to be with Him. (Of course, that means many will not choose
Him.)
Calvinists, however, wrongly
conclude that if we could make choices then it would mean God is not God, that
He is not in-control, that He is at our mercy.
Yes, He is in control. It’s just that He chose to give us the right
to make choices. Because He wanted
to. For His eternal purposes.
Amanda has great, logical, biblical
answers to the Calvinism nonsense that the pastor brings up in this chapter,
such as the idea that God planned and caused the bad things that happened in
Joshua’s life and Job’s life, and that He planned Jesus’s death from the beginning, and
so since He planned Jesus’ death, He needed sinners so that Jesus had someone
to die for, and so that’s why He caused the Fall. (It’s not said exactly this way, but this is
what he’s saying. Talk about putting the
cart before the horse!)
But Amanda’s responses to these - her
view of Scripture and God’s character – are so much more on-track than these
trained pastors and leaders. Her views
make sense and fit with all of Scripture and uphold God’s character, whereas
Calvinism destroys God’s character and twists Scripture to fit its views and is
purely irrational, illogical, contradictory nonsense!
I was particularly struck by the
nonsensical question the pastor asked:
“I want to ask you one last
question,” Joshua focuses on the issue of moral responsibility. “Why do you so
strongly insist that ‘one must have a free choice in order to be morally
responsible’?” (pg 144)
Oh my goodness … where do I start
with this one!?! Umm … let’s see … why
do we believe that in order to be justly held accountable for our decisions, we
have to have the right to make decisions?
Umm … DUH! … because it makes sense!
Because it’s logical! Because
it’s the only way it can be if God is a truly just God! If we had no choice about sinning, if God
caused us to make the choices we do but then held us accountable for them, punishing us for the things He
caused … it would make God an unjust, irrational tyrant. Not the loving, righteous, holy, just God of
the Bible.
But Calvinism would rather have us accept the nonsense that we have no freedom to make choices, that God causes us to sin and to be unbelievers, but that it’s perfectly fine and just for Him to punish us for it anyway.
This is the kind of nonsensical thinking and irrational reasoning that Calvinists have! Honestly, if I was Amanda standing there talking to Joshua, and he asked me that question, I would probably stare at him in absolute disbelief that he would think that we can be held morally accountable for our choices even if we never had the right to make choices, and I would have to say, "I can't talk to you anymore. There's no point. Not when you're choosing to be this stupid!" And I would turn and walk away. Seriously, if they will cling adamantly to such irrational, illogical, nonsensical garbage then there is no point in trying to reason with them. Not when they insist on clinging to an unreasonable theology!
[I wouldn’t be surprised if Calvinism is responsible for many of the atheists out there today. Because who would want a relationship with a God like that!?! But that's the thing, though ... Calvinists are not about a relationship with God, even though God is about a relationship with us. They are not about relationship; they are about "God is so big and supreme that we humans have virtually no value other than the glory God gets through us." They are about clinging to their idea of God getting more glory at any cost, even if it means saying that He causes sin and puts people in hell for His glory. Irrational and unbiblical! They are about clinging to their erroneous view of God's sovereignty because they think it's more honoring to God to say He causes everything - even sin and unbelief - and because they can't possibly accept the idea that God would give us the ability to choose. Having a relationship with God is not a priority to them because they don't see God as a relational Being, as someone who wants to be near us, who loves us and values us just because He does, because He made us. They only see Him as a Supreme Ruler who seeks more and more glory for Himself, who loves Himself more than anything, and who uses us for His purposes and plans and, oh yes, for more glory.
In fact, it baffled me that my Calvinist pastor is so big into doing missions work. I would think, "How can someone who believes that God has already prechosen who will get saved and who won't and there's nothing we can do about it ... also be so passionate about missions work, about going out there and spreading the Gospel among people when it really has no effect, according to their view?" And then, I found a couple articles he wrote about his view of missions. And it explained it all. For him, missions is simply about "making God famous." According to him, God's main and virtually only goal is to become famous among the world, and so this is the pastor's reason for doing missions. There was no focus on helping the people find healing and forgiveness, on sharing with them the truth that Jesus died for them and that God loves them and that they matter to Him and that He wants a relationship with them, on drawing them near to God's heart, inspiring them to start a relationship with Him. It was only and all about "making God famous and spreading His glory."
You know who else is famous? Serial killers. Tyrannical dictators. Cult leaders who kill hundreds with poisoned Kool-Aid. Narcissistic Mega-Church pastors promising health and wealth. Satan. You can be famous for all the wrong reasons. And if, as Calvinism does, you divorce God from His revealed character in the Bible and divorce the Gospel message from God's love for us all and offer to save us all then you are making a different God famous. Not the God of the Bible! It makes me sad to think about the version of the Gospel and of God that he is spreading and how much the people are missing out on. The damage Calvinists do to a Christian's relationship with God has got to break God's heart! I know it breaks mine!]
But Calvinism would rather have us accept the nonsense that we have no freedom to make choices, that God causes us to sin and to be unbelievers, but that it’s perfectly fine and just for Him to punish us for it anyway.
This is the kind of nonsensical thinking and irrational reasoning that Calvinists have! Honestly, if I was Amanda standing there talking to Joshua, and he asked me that question, I would probably stare at him in absolute disbelief that he would think that we can be held morally accountable for our choices even if we never had the right to make choices, and I would have to say, "I can't talk to you anymore. There's no point. Not when you're choosing to be this stupid!" And I would turn and walk away. Seriously, if they will cling adamantly to such irrational, illogical, nonsensical garbage then there is no point in trying to reason with them. Not when they insist on clinging to an unreasonable theology!
[I wouldn’t be surprised if Calvinism is responsible for many of the atheists out there today. Because who would want a relationship with a God like that!?! But that's the thing, though ... Calvinists are not about a relationship with God, even though God is about a relationship with us. They are not about relationship; they are about "God is so big and supreme that we humans have virtually no value other than the glory God gets through us." They are about clinging to their idea of God getting more glory at any cost, even if it means saying that He causes sin and puts people in hell for His glory. Irrational and unbiblical! They are about clinging to their erroneous view of God's sovereignty because they think it's more honoring to God to say He causes everything - even sin and unbelief - and because they can't possibly accept the idea that God would give us the ability to choose. Having a relationship with God is not a priority to them because they don't see God as a relational Being, as someone who wants to be near us, who loves us and values us just because He does, because He made us. They only see Him as a Supreme Ruler who seeks more and more glory for Himself, who loves Himself more than anything, and who uses us for His purposes and plans and, oh yes, for more glory.
In fact, it baffled me that my Calvinist pastor is so big into doing missions work. I would think, "How can someone who believes that God has already prechosen who will get saved and who won't and there's nothing we can do about it ... also be so passionate about missions work, about going out there and spreading the Gospel among people when it really has no effect, according to their view?" And then, I found a couple articles he wrote about his view of missions. And it explained it all. For him, missions is simply about "making God famous." According to him, God's main and virtually only goal is to become famous among the world, and so this is the pastor's reason for doing missions. There was no focus on helping the people find healing and forgiveness, on sharing with them the truth that Jesus died for them and that God loves them and that they matter to Him and that He wants a relationship with them, on drawing them near to God's heart, inspiring them to start a relationship with Him. It was only and all about "making God famous and spreading His glory."
You know who else is famous? Serial killers. Tyrannical dictators. Cult leaders who kill hundreds with poisoned Kool-Aid. Narcissistic Mega-Church pastors promising health and wealth. Satan. You can be famous for all the wrong reasons. And if, as Calvinism does, you divorce God from His revealed character in the Bible and divorce the Gospel message from God's love for us all and offer to save us all then you are making a different God famous. Not the God of the Bible! It makes me sad to think about the version of the Gospel and of God that he is spreading and how much the people are missing out on. The damage Calvinists do to a Christian's relationship with God has got to break God's heart! I know it breaks mine!]
This chapter is a great look into
the irrational, faith-destroying, God-dishonoring nonsense that is Calvinism!
5. She looks at many different
potential problem areas in her church, and this helps me know what to look out
for. She shines the light on “The Word”
Bible study (published by the Center for Church Based Training) and the book Systematic Theology by Wayne Grudem –
both of which her pastor had all the elders go through. (Calvinist indoctrination! Grudem’s book is also required at my church
for the elders, from what I hear, as it is in many churches with a Calvinist pastor.)
She briefly touches on the ESV Bible,
a Bible with a Calvinistic bent. In
fact, the ESV Study Bible has two huge Calvinists as two of its main editors,
Wayne Grudem and J.I. Packer.
She brings up Wayne Grudem’s (there he is
again!) Recovering
Biblical Manhood and Womanhood (published in 1991 for the Council on Biblical Manhood) and how it led to the
“complementarian” style that invaded her church (chapter 10). Eventually, this led to their church becoming a “boys only”
club where women were expected to be quiet and submissive to the men. Their voices were taken away, and they were prevented
from having any input or say in church matters.
(I believe the Bible says that men should be in the head pastor roles and elder roles, responsible for the final decisions in a church. But this doesn’t mean that women can’t be
part of the decision-making process and that they can’t hold other important roles
in the church.)
And she looks at the Shepherding Movement which would eventually
lead to the covenants in her church, to the leadership tightening their control
on the congregation.
This movement is explained this way
on page 136: “The four [original,
founding] Shepherds taught and practiced a style of leadership that they called
"shepherding.” They used this term to describe attempts to control the
private lives of their members. In neo-discipleship groups, there is absolute
submission to the shepherd. Everyone is submitted in a regimented authoritarian chain of command. Someone is
between you and God at all times.”
When
you first read the proposed covenant in chapter 21, most of it sounds okay,
like you’re just promising to live the way a Christian should live. It might even sound beneficial, like
it’s just going to be a bunch of small-group discipleship and accountability groups,
helping each other along in our spiritual walks.
But for
Amanda’s church, it ultimately led to being required to sign these covenants
between you and the church if you wanted to remain a member. This is something God never requires of His
people. And there is no basis for it in
the Bible! In fact, as Amanda points
out, God tells us to flee from the yokes others try to put on us, to not take
oaths but to let our “yes” be “yes” and our “no” be “no,” to not put undue
burdens on others as the Pharisees and teachers of the law loved to do.
Something like this is a power-play
by domineering men who are seeking positions of authority and who want to
maintain tight control over “their” church.
But they present it as something that’s good for the church and the
people. And since good Christians want
to please God, they will submit themselves to this kind of control if the leadership
makes them feel it’s the “right” thing to do.
I find it interesting that to support their right to force
members to sign a covenant, they use 38 Bible verses. And they quote Hebrews 13:17 twice - ” Obey
your leaders and submit to them …” And
this covenant doesn’t just require you to abide by it until you die, but it
requires you to keep living by it even if you should leave that church for
another one.
“VII. I affirm that this covenant shall be
fulfilled when either the Lord calls me home or calls me to carry out the
spirit of this covenant in another like-minded church.”
(page 167)
If all of this doesn’t alarm you,
it should. This is not what church is
about or what the Christian life is supposed to look like. This is a solid step on the path to spiritual
abuse, to authoritarian, cult-like control.
Amanda wrote down her unfortunate
and painful experience so that we could be spared some of what she went
through, if only we will take to heart what she said, the warning signs she
wrote about, tucking them in the back of our brain if ever we need them.
Conclusion:
All in all,
this book is a great resource for any church-goer. Especially for those who are concerned about
what kind of church they belong to and what theological views are being taught. Do not just accept whatever you are spoon-fed
from the leaders and pastors. Be
discerning. Be a Berean.
“Now
the Bereans were of more noble character than the Thessalonians, for they
received the message with great eagerness and examined the Scriptures every day
to see if what Paul said was true.” (Acts 17:11)
They heard
the Word from Paul, one of the greatest “theologians” ever. And yet they still examined the Scriptures
for themselves to make sure what he was preaching was accurate. And they were called “noble”!
It doesn’t
matter if you don’t have the theological training that your pastor or some
brainy theologian does. Just because
they have a lot of knowledge about something doesn’t mean they are wise. Sometimes, they end up worshipping their own
intelligence, creating a God and theology based on their own views,
assumptions, and misconceptions. And
when that happens – when someone is so enamored with their own mind that they
end up nibbling their way lost and altering the Gospel and God’s character –
God might just end up using the simple people to confound the wise!
“Instead,
God chose things the world considers foolish in order to shame those who think
they are wise.” (1 Corinthians 1:27, NLT)
And
ultimately that’s what I think about Amanda and her book. God is using a simple person - someone who is
not a trained theologian but who simply reads the Bible as it was meant to be
read, someone who is considered foolish by the “spiritual elite” at her church –
to challenge and confront the waywardness of those who are wise in their own
eyes. And while they might never see it or
admit it in this lifetime, I believe Amanda (and those like her who take a
stand for truth) will be vindicated in the end, when we all stand before God
and give an account for what we taught others about Him and His Gospel.
Thank you,
Amanda, for being willing to open up your life and heart to help those of us
who might find ourselves in a similar situation! May God bless you for the trials and
heartache you went through for Truth and for His name’s sake!
(Once again, click here to go to the author’s website or click here to order her book on Amazon.)
(Once again, click here to go to the author’s website or click here to order her book on Amazon.)